And that sounds like a good thing, right? Well, it's not, and I'm interested to hear from those of you who have gone through this with children you have brought home at various ages. The whole idea of "loving" and snuggling with everyone, and sometimes not wanting to go to mama and baba because their not giving her what she wants. We were wondering if it would happen. After all, Jenna has a million dollar smile, and steals hearts in an instant. I think she's used to flashing that smile to, well, manipulate.
I've read lots of adoption articles that talk about this, but haven't really experienced it. Children come home and look to everyone and anyone who will love them, and give them what they want. They know who mama and baba are, but for a while, they're just the names of those adults at home who set the rules. I think we've reached that point.
So, what have you done? How do you set boundaries so that your child knows that mama and baba are where they go for comfort and love and security, and not every "stranger" that they meet? How do you do this without offending all those who want to love her, too?